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Talis's avatar

“In those Elysian fields, all social hierarchies seemed to collapse and things like status and shame stopped mattering.”

I grew up in these spaces, and I know I would never make it in any culture where hierarchy determines success. I have a nasty habit of pissing on social rules, and relaxing into social reclusive habits. I have heard my province is one of the easiest places to get on with people, as almost no one will stick their nose up to anyone. Even for my province I grew up at music festivals where everyone just pretends to be everyone else’s friend. That

magic social meld Iv discovered is not the norm. It’s the expectation.

But don’t be fooled by quick meaningless interactions..I have. Real friendship is proximity over a long period of time. It’s interwoven social networks, and less about shared interests and likability. Status begs attraction. Hot intense tight friends rip apart and break hearts, but the long term conntacts that keep coming back for season after season?

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"I'm sick, *coughs*"'s avatar

proximity over a long period of time - love

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Camilla's avatar

I just LOVE the way you write and convey what I’m thinking toooo but will never say 👀 best SS!

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Emma Gleason's avatar

Slow Days is sublime eh.

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"I'm sick, *coughs*"'s avatar

So good!

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Ella S.'s avatar

I think we are in the era of "performative" everything... but then again, "All the world's a stage", as Shakespeare put it. So is it just one era?

Anyways, great post!

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"I'm sick, *coughs*"'s avatar

Very true. The era of performance!

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Dani Sabol's avatar

fat white family reference i think im in love 🖤

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"I'm sick, *coughs*"'s avatar

haha!

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Jennie's avatar

Best Substack ever! Look forward to Fridays even more...

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"I'm sick, *coughs*"'s avatar

yay!

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Josie Taylor's avatar

🩷always makes me laugh 🤭

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"I'm sick, *coughs*"'s avatar

<3

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